Back To Basics

We are trashing our sons and daughter's minds with the world thoughts about dating.  We are letting them date at a very young age, to begin with for starters.  Here is today's definition of dating:

Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.

Here are some radical ideas to add to this definition:

1.  Children should not date until they are eighteen years of age.
2.  They should never be alone with the other person. 
3.  They should never touch either other, not even hold hands.
4.  They should explore the other person's way of thinking.  Do they like children, for example.  Do they respect their parents? 
5.  Is the other person a born again Christian?  This is crucial in today's world.


I would love to take credit for these ideas, but they belong to a well-known pastor.  Christians today are teaching their children the ways of the world and it will end in sorrow.  Be Radical in your thinking and teach the ways of Godly dating to your sons and daughters at a very early age.

The Worm That Eats A Marriage

My love for young people has driven me to write about something that plagues most who are about to embark on the precious union of marriage.  There will be very few who will have the temerity to bear the wisdom of what I'm about to put on the table that belongs to the Lord.

Sex before marriage is the worm that will devour the union making it miserable until one or both mates are born again.  Make no mistake about it, premarital sex is a great sin that will eat at your union for the rest of your life.  It will result in a hard marriage rather than a good one.  There is no such thing on this earth as a perfect marriage, but a good one is possible if you have obeyed God and remained a virgin.  

Oh, that young people would obey the Lord and hasten to these words that I have just written!  They come from God and He so wants to bless your future marriage with good and not sorrow!

To All The Young Men

Looking for a good wife?  First, consider yourself.  Have you prayed for a mate?  Have you been taught to pray for your future mate?  If not then you will most likely end up with someone you have "settled" for and how sad this would be.

I Thessalonians 4:3

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality;

Most young men have not been taught to abstain.  This is a big problem.  Today the family is lacking a father present to teach and most men wouldn't teach their sons this valuable lesson anyway.  We find few fathers in the home today and how sad for the young men to be away from them.  This is a breeding ground for homosexuality and all kinds of immoral things to ruin their lives.

If you are without a father or you have a father that just won't teach you this valuable lesson, then please read this article.  Timothy, in the New Testament, was a young man so don't think you can excuse your acts by using the "youth card".  Consider your future children.  You have a chance to teach them God's way for young men.  Will you do it?  Don't' leave this teaching up to the Church to do because it won't get done.  It must be drilled every day into a young man's mind.  Deuteronomy 6:7  " You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise."

May the Lord raise up a generation of mature young men and may He use you to do it.

The Guiding Light

In 1952 the first Soap Opera debuted, "The Guiding Light".  It centered around a minister and his family.  It was the longest Soap to run until 2009.  I remember watching it a couple of times in the early 1960's.  Its content was clean and dealt with problems in the family.  Of course, as a teen Soaps never did interest me until I watched "The Secret Storm".  It came on just after school and I couldn't wait to devour that half hour of a young woman lusting after an older man.  It held my attention for about a year leaving an indelible desire in me for older men.  Even though it was a program without sex and no profanity Satan had an agenda that would touch me and millions of women in evil ways.  There is nothing innocent when it comes to television sitcoms.  They search out our thoughts and twist them into the evil thinking of the world.  These programs are like snakes who want to crawl into your mind and plant seeds of evil against God's word.  

I don't watch sitcoms because they are filled with so much evil.  God tells us to guard our hearts in Proverbs 4:23:

Above all else, guard your heart,
    for everything you do flows from it.

What Is An Effeminate Man?

The word "effeminate" means: 

womanish, effete, foppish, unmanly, feminine

I Corinthians 6:9 is directly associated with being a homosexual and it says that these will not inherit the Kingdom of God.  Why do some men become feminine?  I do not believe that they are born that way and I know this is true from the experience of having a gay brother in my family.  He didn't turn gay until he was twenty-six years old.  He was deeply in love with a married woman for two years and she chose to stay with her husband when he came home from the Army.  I saw the change in him.  His body language first became like a woman's and then his speech as such.  I never condemned him but witnessed to him constantly.  He moved to another town and there he would live until his death from AIDS at the age of forty-seven.  God gives me much grace over his leaving this world without God.  I talked with him just a couple of weeks before he died and he got angry, telling me not to preach to him.  He died in his living room surrounded by his gay friends.  While he was alive he attended a Gay Church of four hundred men, including the Pastor.  

I wanted to throw in my two cents worth on the subject of why some men become "effeminate".  Divorce would be my first thought.  Women raising boys without a father.  My second thought would be an over-bearing Mother who worshipped her son and wanted to control his life.  Homosexuality has become a sin in this country to the extent that we will have gone way further than Sodom and Gomorrah.  

Hudson Taylor

As a young man, Hudson Taylor's first job was working in a shoe store.  He was looking forward to his first paycheck.  The week went by and no pay.  The second and then the third.  He decided not to ask his employer for his pay, but rather he went to the Lord in prayer.  The next day he was given his pay without explanation.  He came to know the power of prayer.

Luke 11:1...

It happened that while [a]Jesus was praying in a certain place, after He had finished, one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray just as John also taught his disciples.” 

Most of us don't pray as we ought.  I'm burdened in my own life with the lack of it!  May God help us to see that prayer is the key to the Kingdom of God.  May we ask God for the desire to pray.  Why must we be taught?  A question that has plagued every believer.  Isn't it just talking to God?  Whatever the reason it was so important that one of the disciples had to ask Jesus to teach them.  May we do the same.

Suffering In Silence

Many people do suffer in silence, including me.  Why?  Often it is because we have no one to confide in who really cares.  More than this I think it is the problem of us not seeking out someone to talk to.  The Christian struggles with the thought of going to a Psychiatrist because they do not believe in God.  They honor Evolution.  God's Word states specifically that we are not to listen to the ungodly or ask for their advice.  I knew a woman who was a pastor's wife a long time ago.  She had a nervous breakdown and spent 3 months in a Sanitorium.  Was she saved? Yes, she most definitely was saved.  I'm not judging anyone. 

Psalm 1:1 

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers;

So, we are left to seek out a Christian Counselor.  They are very hard to find! Some will tell you to "talk to God".  This is good, but sometimes we need someone with skin on to share our problem with.  It's very hard to expose our thoughts to others, at least for me.  How could a Christian talk about spiritual things with a Psychiatrist?  It's a dilemma for the person who finds it very difficult to talk to an unbeliever about these things that bring us down into a deep depression.